Once a month my mom hosts themed family dinners. She puts a lot of thought into these evenings so I try to make sure I make an appearance. We don’t have much family in the area so it's always a small gathering. Typically, these are the nights that my dad brings up the church topic… Continue reading Thank You For Respecting My Boundaries ~ Exvangelical Thoughts

I used to be a devout churchgoer. I would be at the building at least once a week, rain or shine. Well, time has passed and I haven’t been to a service in a few years now. I’ve been on a spiritual journey without going into a church building. At this point, I don’t see… Continue reading I’m Doing Alright Without Church

Anxiety is a bitch and prayer doesn’t have the same comforting power that it did when I was active in the church. I put together a list of things that I find comforting outside the realms of religion. Folding laundry and listing to a podcast Journaling or blogging  Sharing a meal with friends Spending time… Continue reading Comforting things as an E(x)vangelical

Naturally, I am a quiet person. I have always struggled to find my voice, and have spent years in therapy as a teenager trying to find it and honestly, I think I've made more progress in the past few years than when I was working on this with a professional. I think age has been… Continue reading How To Practice Using Your Voice

A few years ago, I was having dinner with a friend talking about atheism. Curious me, was asking lots of questions at one point they said, “I think that raising your kid in religion is a form of child abuse” At the time, I was strongly opposed but now that I’ve spent some time outside… Continue reading Is Raising Your Kid in Religion a Form of Child Abuse?

Several months back, my boyfriend and I got into an argument (it was so long ago, I couldn’t tell you what the disagreement was about). At some point, he said something along the lines of “You need to go back to being at Church and dance all the time. You were happier then.” I’m fairly… Continue reading Was I happier in Church?

I’ve delt with mental illness issues the majority of my life. It’s something that I think I’ve always been aware of, but I never received official diagnoses until I was in my teen years (when they were at its worst). I’ve had various amounts of anxiety, depression, suicidal ideations, depersonalization/dissociation. In my current stage in… Continue reading Bad Mental Health Advice I Received From The Church

Is everyone welcome to attend?What do you believe a women’s role is in the church and family?Do you allow members of the LGBTQ+ community to serve?Does your church host LGBTQ+ weddings?How many genders are there?What is the difference between gender and sex? Are they the same, why or why not?Do you have any gender non-conforming… Continue reading Questions I have for Evengelical Pastors

Every year when my birthday rolls around, I feel a little lost. I suppose it’s exciting but at the same time, I wonder how in the world I made it another year. As someone who has always shitty mental health, I never thought I'd make it past the age of 17. I turn 23 this… Continue reading Heres to 23

I think we can all agree that 2020 was a terrible year. I figured why not make a list of just a few things I learned? Now these are in no particular order, some are pre-pandemic life, time being unemployed, or just a few weeks ago. Making coldbrew coffee is a fun hobby to do… Continue reading 20 Things I learned in 2020