Those who are firm believers in purity (culture) you are probably shaking your head, just by the title. To be honest, by the time you finish reading this you might be praying for me (if you aren't already). As I frequently say, please hear my out before writing a not so nice email. Father daughter… Continue reading My Value Has Nothing To Do With My Virginity

I started Lama-Leah when I was in high school, but I didn't truly invest in it until the fall after I graduated. I was very lost in that season. My post-graduation plans fell through, and I didn't know where I belonged, and to be honest I still don't. Within that time period, I was casually… Continue reading Thank Goodness I Didn’t Get Married

Catching title right? I can already imagine the back lash that I am going to receive for writing this. Before composing a nasty message to me, please try to hear me out. Today I'm going to focus on the Evangelical side of my upbringing. I have never had a serious conversation about sex within the… Continue reading Why Are Evangelicals Obsessed With Doing It?

I was always taught that if a couple lives together outside of marriage it was a sin.  I was taught that you will be so close to each other, that neither of you (but mostly the man) will be able to avoid the temptation of having sex. That is the same community that taught me… Continue reading I Fell For The Wrong Guy?

My most recent posts have sparked conversation and a little bit of controversy. I have received some lovely, and hurtful messages. To my surprise, I have received more private messages from my former peers being thanked that I spoke up about purity culture. On the contrary, I also received a few messages filled with scripture… Continue reading Please Stop Assuming Everyone Is Pure~ Purity Culture

Hello fellow readers! The views on my last post got quite a bit more views than my posts normally receives. I always thought of myself as a sexual being. From a young age, sexuality has fascinated me. However, I grew up in a sex-negative environment. I had no direction about this vastly wide topic from… Continue reading Stop Giving Purity (Culture) So Much Value

Attention grabbing title right? I have been absent from writing in general in the past few months. I have stayed on the DL, as I continue to deal with family issues. This past fall, I made the disunion to move in with my boyfriend. Yes, boyfriend. No, we are not married or even engaged yet.… Continue reading We Live Together But Don’t Have Sex