Many say that high school is “the best years of your life!” Well, those who say that are liars.
Just a few days before school started up I spent a good half an hour worrying about school with a friend straight up complaining how my peers at school can start drama over things that are simply and not worth getting into fights about.
I’ve written about bullying before, so beware this is another post about bullying, but this time I’m going to try to take a different view of it.
If I were to sum up my entire high school experience it would be: You never know who is really there for you until you need them most. Whether it be a family member, friend, or teacher.
I have learned when you let someone burn you, persay they win once. If you let them continue to hurt you they continue to win and slowly start to take over your life. Just like the wax in a candle burns down, they will start to melt the life out of you. In these cases no matter how hard it is, please take these people out of your life. When you are use to someone burning the life out of you, it will be difficult to let go of your relationship with them, but it will be for you own good and will help your well-being and mental health.
In my own life I have had to let go of friends who were tearing me down, not building me up.
Leaving these relationships are some of the hardest things I have done because I had security in their friendship but they were verbally assuring my own insecurities to be true. My friends who assured me that indeed I am stupid, fat, and ugly in a twisted way made me feel good because I was hearing what I wanted to hear. Deep down inside I knew that these friends were burning the life out of me. In my experience usually the other one left before I found the strength to.
Please do not let one burn you more than once. You are worth so much more than having someone in your life that doesn’t see their entire value and, therefore, tries to burn precious wax from your candle. In the long run, letting these people out of your life Will be better for your soul.
In whatever season you are in right now, I encourage you not to burn others down, but invest on others and bring them up.
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